We know but we don’t change
We know smoking is bad for us, but we still smoke.
We know it’s essential to get good sleep, but yet we are always shortchanging our sleep hours.
We know we should eat healthily, but yet we say we don’t know how and eat what we “sounds good” overeating what might nourish our bodies.
We know we should stay hydrates, but we don’t carry water with us throughout the day.
We know stress is bad for us, but we keep spending money and pilling on more responsibilities.
We know we should exercise but make little to no effort to start or block out time in our schedule.
If we know bad habits are so detrimental to our health, why do we continue to do them?
Every action you take has a good intention underneath it, even if you’re not consciously aware of what this is, and the most common hidden goal is comfort.
The human brain is wired to be reward-based, and our ‘reward’ is the feeling of comfort that triggers a release of dopamine or the ‘feel-good’ hormone. We are creating a habit, a desire to have more pleasure or happiness. We don’t stop because despite knowing it’s terrible for us, the comfort, the reward far exceeds the reason to stop. The satisfaction is immediate, and the risk is often over time, years usually and not concerning the moment.
Smoking a cigarette, offers some relaxation, and often an explainable break at work, a bit of freedom. Drinking alcohol may be a form of escape letting go of the stress of the day. The thought of exercising might sound painful or exhausting, and the idea of binge-watching Netflix sounds much more rewarding, for the moment. These all offer an immediate reward. Even though each has a healthy alternative, that path has a long term benefit or reward.
Society, TV, and our role models have a significant impact on our choices. The people we are around the social media threads we scroll through influence our decisions as well. If you’re seeing ads or commercials of people eating fast food and the image portrayed is happiness, satisfaction, affordable, accessible, quick, filling, and everyone is eating it, from movie stars to the runway model, we start to justify it in our minds. We begin to rationalize our bad behaviors if “everyone” It must be okay for us to do it too.
“just one more won’t hurt.”
“I’ll do better tomorrow. I’ve just had a stressful day today.”
“I will stop next week or next month.”
These are typical examples we know we are not making a good decision.
Another one might be, “my grandmother did this and lived to be 90.”
We love to justify our bad choices, making it ok to proceed and not adopt healthier choices.
The reasons to stop bad behavior have to be greater than the reasons to continue. This has to be done on paper. One list with all the reasons you desire to keep this bad habit. Then the other column all the benefits to you and those around you to stop.
Don’t forget these are common consequences if you don’t change your lifestyle: Cancers, diseases and cell damage
- Unhappiness and depression
- Negative physical well-being leading to pain or lethargy
- Increased physical problems in later life
It’s essential to get support and help in achieving your optimal health and happiness. If you are held accountable to someone else, by committing to someone that you will achieve a goal, then your chance of success is up to 95 percent.
When people become “addicted” or “stuck in a bad habit loop,” saying to them: “you should just stop” without doing the work to connect the benefits and weighing out the negative, or going more in-depth to discover when how. Why the bad habit started, a new good pattern will not happen. This takes coaching sessions by certified health or life coach that understands habit change. If you’re curious about what this is, don’t hesitate to ask me, book a call and let’s discuss it. CLICK HERE for my calendar.